My ex and I have been separated for almost 4 years now we just recently finalised the divorce and the children have been ordered by the court to reside at my residence and the father has visitation rights . But ever since we have separated he has gone out of his way to make my life and job as a mother extremely difficult. We have 2 children ages 14-8 when ever they go to him for the holidays he belittles me in front of the children, manipulates them into saying things “like I am abusing them” which is complete nonsense My eldest daughter hates visiting him because of the way he belittles me and gets mad at her if she sticks up for me in any way. He is even accusing her of sleeping around with boys “I watch her like a hawk and would know if she was” Surely this is considered emotional abuse towards the children and myself. I am the sole carer for these children he has no job lives with his mother and has removed himself from paying maintenance according to the Pinetown Magistrate Court I pay for it all and yet he is sending me threats that he knows I am abusing the children and that I am a bad mother and will fight for full custody. Please advise on what actions I can take to protect my children as well as myself I am so tired of receiving threats from him it needs to stop he also needs to stop belittling me in front of our children this has nothing to do with them and he is only harming them emotionally.

Category:  Family Law, Custody and Guardianship

Region: South Africa, Gauteng