Fiance that abused and abandoned family
My daughters fiance, foreigner, forced her to leaver her job, left to go back to Dubai, abandoned her with no money, which he promised her, if she left her job. She has a 3yr old and he put her in debt before he left. He moved the family into a house and is no longer paying rent or anything towards the home. We had a dispute logged with rental housing tribunal & sent him subpoena to come back to SA. He did but then the evening thereafter, gave my daughter an unknown substance to swallow which rendered her unconcious. He proceeded to undress her and admitted to taking videos of her naked and God only knows what he did and what is on these videos, which he has now threatened to release onto social media, if she does not co’operate with him. He tried to take her alone to a remote location and in fear I made her dad go with. He did not like this so he agan got verbally abusive and she told him to get out the car.
We tried going to family court for a restraining order but were rudely spoken to by the staff you expect to help you and needless to say wasted the whole day and got nowhere.
I plea to you for guidance, as we do not have money for lawyers. We are stranded in a house that we cannot pay for and fear for my daughter and her baby’s life. What do we do? I need this man out of the country and out of our lives. He has threatened that he knows people that will kill for him.
She must please go to the domestic violence section of the nearest magistrates court and report the incident. She will be immediately granted an interim protection order that will stop him from coming near her or from verbally, physically and economically abusing her. He will be arrested by the police on a criminal charge if she reports a violation of the conditions. A final protection order may be later granted. With respect to the child she must go to the maintenance section at the court to apply for the maintenance and upkeep of the child. His threats to kill her is intimidation, which is a criminal offense. She can immediately lay a charge at the police station. The threat to put naked pictures on the internet is another offense called extortion. Warm him that if he does you also have the option of suing him for defamation. If you really need to see lawyers and you don’t have money, there is the Legal Aid Board. You can ask at the court where to find them. You can also find their address online for your town or city. Another useful organization is probono.org. The Universities also run law clinics for people who don’t have funds to pay a private lawyer.